my therapy services
Psychotherapy
Therapy is not ‘just talking’ and it’s not ‘just listening’. It’s a special way of paying attention; establishing the themes and threads that emerge from your unique life history. It’s also noticing what isn’t being said or being paid attention to and exploring that too. Why do I say this? Often people worry that they won’t know what to say. You don’t have to have it all figured out. That’s the work we do together.
As your therapist my job is to safely take you to sometimes unexpected, uncomfortable and what might feel like vulnerable places at times. And vitally to ensure it is therapeutic, containing, healing and most of all strengthening. Together we will get to the heart of what has happened (or what didn’t happen for you) to identify the things that are holding you back now. You will be able to establish current triggers that are rooted in the past, better understand unhelpful patterns and behaviours and explore blocked and limiting beliefs.
You will learn a new set of language, evidence based theory and valuable insights to help to bring about new ways of looking at things.
You will be able to identify and apply new coping strategies and learn how to not only identify but to understand and manage your emotions more helpfully. You will also gain a deeper understanding of the impact of others on you. How to identify this more clearly, how to increase more self-awareness and deepen your understanding of how this plays out on your life.
Psychotherapy is deeply centred in guiding you to develop a new sense of self, a feeling of wholeness and embodied connectedness. You will gain clarity through psychological education leading to greater emotional resilience. You will unlearn the unhelpful behaviours that are getting in the way and better understand the things that are tripping you up right now. Your confidence will grow as your self esteem deepens.
My distinct approach holds together the key principles of mindful awareness and compassionate enquiry so that you can unearth and explore your story in a slow, considered, meaningful way. Whilst my approach is about going deep it’s not about excavating. We are not unnecessarily digging up the past, but we are going to the core of your present wounds to bring about an empowered and embodied sense of self-agency. We re- order what you already know and re-establish a bone deep relationship with yourself. Although I am not going to be another person who tells you what to do as they see it I am committed to giving you a sense of direction and understanding.
No worry is silly. If you find yourself spending a lot of time thinking about it and it affects how you feel and how you are around others then it means it’s real for you and that’s something we can work on.